Mental health is something we take lightly in today's society; besides going to therapy, what is it a person can do to insure the well being of others? We live in a cold world but we need to change it.
A lot of times those we see as needy can become irritating to others who are very independent, but sometimes you have to put yourself aside. A lot of times in life, we have bad days and we tend to take things out on others, forgetting that others might be having a bad day as well. At the end of the day, "all I got is myself" but you're not an island....what kind of contradiction is that? Those two sayings seems to circulate and I wish they would subside. I understand there's a lot of people out there who are doomed no matter what you do; but you should still try.
We don't care about others anymore and a lot of people say, "Why is it my job to care about someone I don't know? Because someone you do know might care about the person you don't care much for.(Social media has clearly showed us people we might know.) We realize we're all connected but some days I think it's something we just reciprocate. Some people we make connections with, others its a "you scratch my back I'll scratch yours" kind of relationship, for some its just a season.
I bring this topic up about mental health because I'm in a group on Facebook called DTLA and on many occasions, I see someone posting about a person jumping off the roof of a building. What was going on in that persons life they felt a need to end it? How could one be in a world of 7 billion people and feel isolated? I'm not blaming the world for being cold or anything, but for one to end their life, they had to been battling, facing some demons that we all may have faced at one point.
A lot of people say if you faced them, and I faced them, and we're still here, why couldn't he or she? Because that person was an individual different from everybody else. Biological factors, genes, brain chemistry, traumas, family history of mental health contributes as well; just because me, you, him or her were able to take it, doesn't mean we should ignore that person and let them battle alone.
It's that kind of thinking that's like nails on a chalk board. Are you that cold? Are you hurt, upset that someone could be weak, selfish enough? Does one look down on someone for not being able to take the pressure? Do you feel a sense of pride? I guess you can but not everyone can figure it out on their own. I get there are bigger problems but what is a big problem? There's universal big problems, things that affect, change life as a whole, then there's individual problems; however because we're all connected, one's individual problem can eventually ripple. If we help one link, does it strengthen the rest?
Here's a few early warning signs of mental health problems
- Eating or sleeping too much or too little
- Pulling away from people and usual activities
- Having low or no energy
- Feeling numb or like nothing matters
- Having unexplained aches and pains
- Feeling helpless or hopeless
- Smoking, drinking, or using drugs more than usual
- Feeling unusually confused, forgetful, on edge, angry, upset, worried, or scared
- Yelling or fighting with family and friends
- Experiencing severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships
- Having persistent thoughts and memories you can’t get out of your head
- Hearing voices or believing things that are not true
- Thinking of harming yourself or others
- Inability to perform daily tasks like taking care of your kids or getting to work or school
Looking at this list might strike a few chords. Usually we ignore people who display these signs because we don't recognize them as a problem; also the signs that are displayed are not as blunt because people usually mask their emotions. If someone is experiencing low or no energy, it can be covered up with, "Oh, I haven't been taking my vitamins" or "I've been busy at work" are examples some may use. Using normal everyday reasons as to why; and it can be true. Battling mental health is almost like fighting in Vietnam, its gorilla war fare. One learns to blend with their environment, usually these signs pop up and we can't tell and we don't want to assume so its like our hands are tied behind our backs and we're getting slapped. Speak. If someone doesn't want to hear you, there are others who will listen. It may come off as weird, depressing, or even erratic but its better you speak; and as the ear, don't judge. You may not even like the person but the reason you may not like them could be due to their mental health problems, yours, or both.
A lot of us suffer and instead of speaking, seeking help, we just spread it. If one is having sever mood swings or Feeling unusually confused, forgetful, on edge, angry, upset, worried, or scared, this causes problems in all points of life. For example, these feeling may arise with certain people in your work environment. One's average response is to outcast the person, dislike the person, treat them differently from others because you write it off as, "that's who they are."
If one is at work and they feel they're being set up for failure all the time, its best to investigate the problem. The person could be set up for failure and they're dealing with someone who has mental health problems, or the person claiming to be set up for failure could be dealing with mental health problems or c, they both have mental health problems. It sounds funny but the truth is, it causes unnecessary problems in the work force which in turn generate into the world. Those problems in a different environment translate into fighting or starting problems, drinking, cutting people off in traffic because you want to piss them off and if it does, it spreads, it continues it reaches you again who is still generating negative. Its a constant cycle.
In this patriarchy world, its hard to express how you feel without someone turning you into a meme or judging you.Once again, I think its about finding a balance.
I know everyone can't be saved from their own brutal anguish because sometimes we get stuck in our ways; yet we can stop the war on each other, evolve into a matriarchy/patriarchy world. Without sounding cliche, make this a better place for our children. We may not completely restore the current , but we could get ourselves intact enough to help the future, help them realize its okay to express how you feel; also help them understand there's some people in the world who will make fun of you and that's fine, because we can all joke about ourselves and have a laugh, its healthy, when it becomes unhealthy, we need to speak and feel free to speak.
A lot of people won't be on board because some want to control, eventually (not being mean) natural selection will root out those personalities. If you're fighting mental issues, the environment will not stay like this forever. People will change due to people pushing for the change and you either evolve with it or get left behind; usually as the environment changes, so will your mental health issues.
I can keep going with this because mental health touches on a variety of topics. If you're still reading at this point, thank you for stopping by "No Title" and please feel free to share your opinion in the comments section or on the Facebook post; please be tasteful. debate is fine. teaching is fine. bullying not accepted. Making fun in a healthy way is fine, but not at the expense of someones pain. Once again thank you for stopping by "No Title" and have a wonderful day. One love.