Fate
and lifestyle: Are the two connected? Do we choose the life we live or are we
destine to live the life that was given? Here’s an even better question, do you
think the people who are currently in your life helped with your fate? So for
example, if I would’ve decided to live a rich lifestyle, would the person/s I
was suppose to meet would’ve been rich as well? In some sense I agree they
would’ve been because if fate is real, how in the hell would two people who are
suppose to meet, living two different lifestyle ever meet? I assume in some
sense, if I’m suppose to meet someone, and we are on opposite ends of the money
chart, one or three things can happen: either the rich person becomes poor, or
the poor person becomes rich or there’s that movie moment in life, were two
people from opposing worlds meet and become best friends or lovers; they walk
off into the sunset and magic begins…..I know corny. However, somewhere in the
world, that has happened.
Fate….such
a funny thing…..I was sitting in traffic the other day and if you live in Los
Angeles or any metropolitan, you know that traffic is a dread. First you see
the brake lights, then you see that one person whose still trying to do 80 by
jumping from the lane to lane( which by the way can you stop doing that. You do
realize if you cause an accident, this gridlock will get worse and wherever you
were trying to get to, will take you even longer or you may not get there. So
stop for the love of yourself or just for the fact your making traffic worse.)
Anyways, you slowly start to dwindle down from your speed limit, the hands go
up, the grumbles begin, the radio goes up, if you’re a smoker, the cigs light
up, blinkers are constantly going off…..welcome to traffic. As I sit there
frustrated because I left an hour early for work which is only 30 minutes away
but I’m still going to be five minutes late, who in the fuck are all these
people driving? As my speed decreased from five to zero, it gave me a minute to
look around at all of these people; there were cars ranging (with the naked
eye) ranging from as little as $500 dollars to as much as $100,000 dollars,
there were 18 wheelers, taxi’s, every car you could think of just sitting in traffic;
some people picking their nose, some checking themselves out, some texting,
some just sitting there, some smoking, some just grooving to the tunes, some
people just laughing….I started thinking, which one of these people stuck in
traffic will influence my life? I’m sure you’re thinking, “they’ve already
influenced it, they’re making you five minutes late for work.” Yeah I get that,
but a direct influence. Out of these millions of people on the freeway (and
that’s not even counting the folks on the other side flying by) who have I met
already? Is my future wife on this
freeway? Is my next best friend on this freeway? Are my new co-workers on this
freeway? I mean we’re all going in the same direction but as I mentioned, every
car on this freeway has a wide range in price. Out of all the random people
stuck in this traffic, whose life will I influence and whose life will
influence my life?
Maybe I won’t meet any of these
people, but I find that kind of hard. In just a short distance from where I’m
at in traffic, until my next exit, there are thousands of vehicles, but
millions of people (that’s counting the people who have more than themselves in
the car and city buses) all of these people coming from and going to different
places, one of them I’m bound to meet at some point. One day when you’re stuck
in traffic, look around. Ask yourself that question….who on this freeway will
be in my next (insert position in life)? At that moment, the person next to you
on the freeway, you may think you would never meet. Looking at the car, you can
assume the lifestyle, but that may only be temporarily. I can’t talk bad about
the rich, nor can I talk bad about the poor, sure one another may talk bad
about each other but only because neither understand the lifestyle; unless
you’ve lived both. Usually, once you start living one lifestyle, you have a
tendency to forget how you lived the other…in some sense, I would say lifestyle
get’s in the way of fate. I mean we judge people before we meet them which can
hinder our chances of meeting the person we really needed to meet. Doesn’t that
suck to some degree? Racism, how many people would have a beautiful life with
another person if racism did not exist?
So let me ask you a question reader, do you think your decisions help
shape others future? Or is it just coincidence that you and whomever you meet
have the same mind frame?
lifestyle though may be a fated one!
ReplyDeleteDo you think your lifestyle influenced the ones around you? Do you think no matter what decision you made, the same people you've met would be in your life today? If you became a stock broker, do you think your friends would have become that as well or do you think you would know a different group of people? I'm breaking it down as far as common interest. The people you know today may not have any interest in the stock market, so if 10 years ago, you decided on a different lifestyle, would those people be there? A lifestyle could be fate....but how would things change? I always think maybe those people would be in my life, but maybe they wouldn't be my friends, maybe they would be enemies or maybe someone would be my boss....I feel like every decision we make today, shapes someone else future. I do believe we have some control, but then fate allows no control to some extent; it's more like a force with free will....a contradiction.
ReplyDeletedoes seem like a paradox .... though life has them all over. .... finite bodies in an infinite universe .... every decision me make shapes our future and for most of the time we don't seem to be highly conscious of the dramatic impact that little decisions can make. It's almost as if we are working around unconsciously most of the time in a conscious world. Ok Im confused ;)
DeleteI think the decisions I've made have led me to the people in my life, whether it's the job I took, the house I bought, or the time I decided to go to the grocery store and struck up a conversation with the person also reaching for jumbo-sized can of Libby's corned beef hash. Though, with some of these decisions -- particularly those that weren't heavily deliberated -- chance worked itself into the equation too.
ReplyDeleteI agree with that. When I meditate, sometimes I can put myself in someone's vision.I can see what there seeing. As in, I can see their path and hear the decisions. Usually I can fuse them with my decisions. I'm sure this is rooted from me knowing the person, so for example, me and a friend may actually be similar in personality so I know what decisions he's going to make....which makes me kind of wonder, about their decision making influencing my life? Do you believe in good or bad energy?
DeleteFrom birth to death I think our lives are ruled mostly by chance. The part we play is to choose among the chances presented to us. So, in that sense, I do think we "make" our fate.
ReplyDeleteNP, do you think another person's energy can change your fate? So for example, I might want to meet someone with a positive vibe so I myself am always trying to keep a positive beat in life, but I keep attracting negative people, could that in a sense be a force?
ReplyDeleteI feel everyone and every thing is connected and influences the outcomes.
ReplyDeleteI do not believe in any predetermined fate. I believe we have control over our decisions, and our choices which often effect the path of others. Moods and emotions are usually contagious so you are effecting others just by being seen, and then they effect others onwards with your mood from there.
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